I tried to do a few things differently in 2025.
More specifically, evolve towards moments or things that make me uncomfortable.
(I don’t want to say “moments when I’m in physical danger”, of course.)
But rather, I’m going to run towards The things that my brain says to me: “It’s uncomfortable, I don’t like it,” he avoids at all costs. “
The email I am afraid of opening. The conversation I am afraid of having. The question I am afraid of asking. The ability to be alone with my thoughts (yikes).
When I reach my phone or my Netflix or PlayStation controller to avoid being bored or uncomfortable or sad or guilty …
I try to build a discipline to take a break first.
In order not to avoid, not to distract or entertain me far from what is really going on.
In order not to introduce yourself or run away, Monty-Python style.
If I have the courage to sit there and really ask the question: “Why is that uncomfortable to me?” There are precious lessons to learn.
Rely on discomfort
Author Pema Chodron presents the following in his book When things collapse::
“We consider discomfort in any form whatsoever as bad news.
… Feelings such as disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy and fear.
Instead of being bad news, these are in fact very clear moments that teach us where we hold back. “”
These things can be incredible teachers if we give ourselves space to learn.
But it is completely request in 2025:
Thanks to the internet and our phones and delivery the same day, we can spend every minute of every day hiding from almost all the uncomfortable feelings in our lives. We never have to be bored, we never have to feel “bad”, we never have to approach the elephant in the room.
We can just slide, click, type or dissociate to avoid all “bad” feelings.
We can hide with entertainment and endless comfort (even if it prevents us from getting what we really want).
Of course, these bad feelings do not disappear – they are always there, and the things that we avoid should possibly be treated.
When I try to hide the discomfort, I know that I don’t really avoid it. I don’t keep it in a box.
I am trapped in Pandora’s box with the monsters.
Blaise Pascal, a philosopher of the 17th century, said the best:
“All the problems of humanity arise from the inability of the man to sit quietly in a room alone.”
These feelings try to teach us!
Many feelings of discomfort cry to teach us something if we can crop what we think about them.
As Chodon points out:
“They are like messengers who show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we are stuck.
This very moment is the perfect teacher, and lucky for us, it is with us wherever we are. »»
Life has a way of making this feeling silent and uncomfortable increasingly until we can prevent ourselves from solving it …
But we can save ourselves a little time if we recognize fear, we will look earlier and life try to teach us something.
This is my challenge for you this week.
And if …
We Let us get bored?
We asked, “Am I Really Hungry, or am I just soothing with food?
We admitted that we were afraid, anxious or nervous, then we asked (with a compassionate curiosity) what was behind the feeling?
Life is trying to teach us lessons every day.
We just have to be courageous enough to be uncomfortable to see it.
-Teve
