A few months ago, one of my friends lost his phone. The next day, another friend lost his wallet. These things were not just moved; They did not surface the next day. They had not slipped pocket and descend between the cushions of the sofa to find while storing the house. The phone and wallet disappeared and did not return. They seemed beautiful and really lost.
We will mislead things all the time. “Keys, telephone, wallet”, I repeat as a mantra before leaving the house, the office, the bar, tapping my pockets to make sure we are intact. We all experienced this feeling “Oh no, where is my …” feeling. We are sure that we have lost an essential object and that we are struck by a feeling of misfortune so intense, it is almost breathtaking. Then, just as quickly, this exquisite relief washing when you notice that your phone is, in fact, in the pocket of your coat – false alarm, crisis avoided. You are, for a moment, a man changed, a person who maintained the horror of having to call the DMV, and you obtained a last -minute stay. You will keep the best trace of your belongings from now on. You never want to feel this again.
Merre things and then find that it is a daily nonsense. Losing things is rarer. The fact that two good friends have lost important consecutive things seemed bizarre, as if a particular type of bad luck had focused on my social circle. Someone wise advised me once when things seem strange or confusing or too symbolically weight, we could ask ourselves: “How to interpret this if it was a dream?” It puts a certain distance between us and what is happening. What if I had a dream in which the people of my life continued to lose their business? How could I interpret this?
“Lose something every day. Accept failure / lost door keys, the time badly spent. / The art of losing is not difficult to master, “wrote Elizabeth Bishop in” One Art “. The poem begins by discussing the loss of things without consequences such as the keys, then goes to more important losses: “three loved houses”, “Two Rivers, continent”, “even losing you”. Small losses are preparing for the big ones.
In the dream in which my friends continue to lose apparently insignificant things, I see symbols. The portfolio and the phone are boring essential elements, the unstruated and without precipitation tools that we have for granted until we lose them. Then their importation enters the shiny orientation: what was even in my wallet? License, credit cards, so many receipts. Was there a gift card that I will never come back? Things were so easy before and I didn’t even know it. Now there is all this confusion, all these hassles. Why are we so negligent? Why do we take everything for granted?
In my interpretation, I am tempted to see a lesson to keep things more closely, keeping a better track, cherishing stronger. But when I asked my friend who had lost her phone on the experience, she described two hours of panic. The next morning, however, the feeling had disappeared. “I decided that if someone wanted to contact me, he could wait. That I could go everywhere where I needed, that I had everything I needed, ”she said.
Oh! Of course! Impermanence! I always forget. Buddhist writer Jack Kornfield wrote about his teacher, holding a cup of teaBy saying: “For me, this cup is already broken. Because I know his destiny, I can fully appreciate it here and now. And when off you go, let’s go. The cup is already broken. The phone and wallet are already lost. We have everything we need. The things we are afraid of losing have already disappeared.
Knowing that it does not lead terror every time I think I left my phone in a taxi. But in the calm moments when I am calmer, I try to meditate on the things that I hold too closely, to loosen my catch a little, to transport a little more slightly the cup of tea, the wallet or the phone, the People and the places and the ideas that I tighten, as if the clutch would prevent them from disappearing.
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